Woohoo! Wild! and Whizbang!

Posted on October 24, 2011 by doradueck

The place where I blog (on a day when it's tidy)

For several months now, WordPress has rewarded me with a cheer when I publish a blog post. This cheerleader Function has some very enthusiastic words in its repetoire, including the three in the title above, and others such as sly! brilliant! impressive! groovy! handy! (handy?) and fantastic! This is a Function that is obviously high on exclamation marks and adjectives-for-building-others’-self-esteem potions. Like kindergarten children who quickly learn to ignore praise that is excessive and indiscriminate (whether a page of scribbles or something actually labored over), I do not allow myself to take these words seriously. I do appreciate, however, that said Function tells me how many posts I’ve now posted, and quickly scans my latest column to suggest additional tags. Each time it also suggests three intriguing ideas for future posts, which I’ve not yet used, but surely will if I run out of ideas. (E.g. What gift would you like to anonymously send someone?) Continue reading →

Gratitude for this family

Posted on October 16, 2011 by doradueck

Playing in the tent and on the rope swing, by granddaughter M., 7.

I’m just coming off a wonderful week with our family. Instead of the usual two of us, the house filled with eleven more people — five adult children/spouses, and six grandchildren aged four months to nearly ten. For most of the week, we had warm autumn weather, allowing us to extend our interactions onto the deck and into the back yard. We played boce ball, put up a tent, swung on a rope swing, and jumped in leaves. The kids had planned a number of special activities such as an egg drop competition (teams tried to wrap a raw egg so it would survive ever higher drops) and pumpkin carving. We went to Birds Hill for a wiener roast and kite flying. Inside we read and played games and visited and ate.

I confess I’m always reluctant to get too buttery in my expressions around family life, lest they mask both its inherent challenges and its true splendor. But I’m so deeply grateful for this family, for each one in it, and for the relationships we enjoy. These (now) twelve other people are truly the best gifts to me, over and over. And not just in what they give me in their love and kindness, but also in what I see them giving each other. Continue reading →

At home

Posted on September 20, 2011 by doradueck

Anybody home? (Photo: R. Bergen Braun)

I’ve been thinking about home. I’m at home, so I guess what I’m really thinking about is being here – here in our so-and-so many square feet – and what that represents for me at the moment. Fall is in the air, for one thing, which means winter is coming, and winter is a time I love a lot. In winter home becomes even smaller and quite specific in being not the house and deck and garage and yard but the inside: these rooms, this furnace-provided warmth, these windows facing the low bright southern sun, these blinds against the early winter dark.

We’ve also been away for weeks at a time over the past months and now we’re home again without any immediate plans to leave. So I’ve been enjoying that too, settling back in with the projects centered in this place. One of those projects – more like an interval of particular happiness – concerns a week in October when our children and six grandchildren will all be coming “home” for a Thanksgiving family gathering. Continue reading →