Ads on this blog?

When I began this blog just over a year ago now, I thought I’d understood that since I couldn’t run ads on my site, neither would anyone else! But there it is, way down at the bottom of their features page: WordPress will “occasionally…very rarely” run ads on their “free” blogging platform. In the excitement and learning curve of blogging, I guess that sentence just didn’t sink in. These ads, of course, never show up on my own visits here, so I blithely assumed they weren’t appearing when others opened “Borrowing Bones.”

In the last while, however, I’ve been alerted, via a number of casual conversations, that ads do show up. Discreet, perhaps, but ads nevertheless. It was the one reported to be something about brides/women from the Ukraine that really got to me! So I’ve been digging into this, and that’s when I comprehended that last sentence on the features page.

Since I’d decided from the get-go that I wouldn’t blog for revenue, I want to assure you:
1. I’ve received no monies from these ads; WordPress has.
2. I have had no control over their content, and apologize to any who may have been surprised or offended at what may have appeared.
3. Since I have no idea what WordPress’ definition of “occasionally” is, and since blog authors are not given any control or notification over what ads may appear, I have opted to pay a yearly fee to entirely eliminate the use of ads at this site.
4. Which means that the free platform isn’t actually free (either there’s revenue for the company from ads, or the blog author pays), but I still like WordPress and also understand that there are costs and staff to pay to run the supports. The trade-off seems fair enough.

If any of you still see ads on my blog after today, please let me know; you can use the address at “About” or the comment feature. Thanks!

Looking at myself…

On Monday, I recalled myself as a child in reference to the limited schooling available to the Mennonite children of Bolivia, such as the girl, left, in Lisa Wiltse’s photo essay in The Walrus. It was a way of explaining what motivates my concerns for her and her siblings and peers: my gratitude for the privileges I’ve had to be educated, and my remembered longings to learn. Today I’ll be even bolder — on the personal side of things — for there’s a photo of myself I love, and at a poetry workshop about a decade ago we were to write something based on a photo, and so I wrote about that one. I make no claims for the poetry, but it does try to get at what I was saying on Monday. (Photo and poem follow below.)

Some may see it as a failure of the imagination if I feel pity for those Mennonite children. I’m forgetting, they may say, how much joy can be wrested out of life in spite of limitations and constraints, and surely limitations and constraints have been the lot of women and children, and men too of course, throughout time. Life is but a vale of sorrow, etc. etc. True enough. Still, I insist on linking my life to theirs and wishing more for them, and I insist on pity too. I think it could be allowed that this is not a failure but an act of imagination. As writer Amy Tan has said, “Imagination is the closest thing to feeling compassion.”

Looking at myself at nearly-eight

I am set down to smile
in a classroom, a place as lovely,
as familiar, as comforting,
as any green arbor Nature might arrange —
a table, a blackboard, a book
open to every possible green thing
I will discover —

The face of the girl is radiant.
I want to touch her,
frame my hands about these cheeks
to remember the young skin of
curiosity and confidence,
meet her eager blue-green eyes of
happiness.

October

I don’t know when I’ve felt the particular October-ness of October as intensely as this year. This tenth month of our Gregorian calendar sometimes behaves like the eighth, which it was in the Roman calendar (octo), sporting all the charm of late summer instead of early winter. And this year too. The geraniums in the barrel planter and the clematis on the garage wall are still blooming merrily, and though the rest of the flower beds are finished, I cut marigolds for a table centerpiece yesterday. Long stretches of days this month have been warm, even hot.

At the same time, there’s the sweet melancholy of fall in it, the trees mostly bare and the colours monochrome, geese overhead, huge bins full of pumpkins at the Superstore, dark encroaching earlier every day.

This October has been especially blessedly poised between summer and winter, so well fulfilling its role as consummate autumn month (for this part of the globe, I mean), a time in which we live with a keen awareness of what has been and what’s to come. As if both memory and wisdom have reached a near state of perfection, though of course nothing’s perfect about it, unless it’s compromise of the seasons.

And in October, or so it seemed to us this year, every organization or institution – be it cultural or church – puts on a conference, fund-raising banquet, or opens its “season.” On the heels of Thanksgiving with its praises and feasting, there’s been the riches of a Mennonite history conference, and lectures on McLuhan, and the first of another “Take and Read” series, and the Manitoba Theatre Centre’s “One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest,” and then for good measure, “Lenin’s Embalmers” at the Jewish Theatre, and CMU’s annual J.J. Thiessen lectures, this year on the spiritual power of desert and wilderness (or Winnipeg winters, as one participant noted), and so it will go into the last week of the month as well. I hope this recitation doesn’t sound like trying to impress with busyness. The emphasis is “riches.” And there’s plenty we haven’t attended as well. October, apparently, is congenial to planners, and thus it gets stuffed, like the Thanksgiving turkey, which makes it nourishing, and interesting too.

October seems a month with post-menopausal zest (about which I know a little myself), and so we follow the weather, and when it’s warm, we’re outside, walking or whatever, and as far as our energies take us, we’re attending things. And if it all feels intense, sometimes overwhelming, it’s because one knows what end of the calendar year we’re on, the end and not the beginning, trees revealing their bones and everything wrinkling and fading around us.

As if to remind us of the poles, two of our grandchildren have birthdays in October. We sent our packages and as much love as we can convey in the mail to the world’s liveliest and best 4 and 9-year-olds, but closer to home, we’re having to respond to the needs of my mother, 88, frail, barely mobile, and slated for surgery next week.

The month will end with Halloween, and whether you go for the ghoulish or the respectful aspect of remembering the dead, it too is a sign of turning. But, for one more week, it’s still October. Last night the moon was full, almost sun-bright, and we left the bedroom curtains open to the beautiful light.